Natural Hair

Why I nearly cried after the BIG CHOP 😢

Hello beautiful people,Thank you all in advance for taking the time out of your precious day to read my blog. I believe we all have something we can share with others whether big or small. There is something we can all learn from each other. This is a part of the reason I wanted to start a blog.

So….let’s get into why I nearly cried the first few days of me cutting my hair lol. One of the reason was because I literally didn’t know what to do with it. I usually do my hair every morning before I go to work and when I had longer relaxed hair, it was very easy to bush it back in a bun and am out the door. Having short natural hair I couldn’t do that anymore. I woke up early one morning to give myself some extra time to do my hair and that morning I looked in the mirror and was like ‘why did I cut my hair’, tears literally nearly came out of my eyes. I started to regret the decision I made. That day I only left the house because I would have been late to work otherwise, lol. I was satisfied but not completely happy with it.

Everything I was trying just wasn’t settling with me and giving the confidence I usually had in regards to my hair. In all honesty a part of me was afraid of people’s reactions. I didn’t know how people were going to react and what they would think about my new tweenie weenie afro (twa). Those thoughts knocked my confidence for a few days.

So many people were complimenting me, but for me I just wasn’t completely sold on my new haircut. When I really think about it, I was more concerned on what others would say and think rather than how I would look at myself and what I would think. I was frustrating myself because I kind of wanted everyone to accept my hair lol. Silly I know but that’s how we think sometimes as human beings. We all want to be accepted one way or another.

It then hit me… ‘Chev, you didn’t do this for anyone to accept you, you did this because you wanted to, you did this for yourself’. It’s funny how we can do things for everyone to accept us and be happy with us but in reality, that’s just impossible. We can and will never be able to please everyone no matter how hard we try. That’s just not how the world works.

An important lesson I learnt in this is, whatever you do, do for yourself first and never forget that. In return whether people like the decision you made or not, it won’t affect you because you didn’t do it for them in the first place!

P.S I don’t have that problem anymore, I am embracing my natural hair more and more each day and I am loving the experience coming with it.

I would love to hear from you, please leave your comments on what you think or any questions you may have….don’t forget to like, share, and follow for new post…until next time😘💁🏾

 

 

 

 

Natural Hair

My BIG CHOP! 

Hi everyone😊👋🏽
If it’s your first time on my blog, your are very welcome. I hope you enjoy this journey with me. 

I never intended to go back to my natural hair at all. In my mind it just seemed like it was too much work and I wouldn’t have a clue what to do with it. My mind slowly began to change seeing pictures and videos of people on social media. 

My hair before the big chop.

The beginning of 2016 I thought I wanted to transition, which I was doing for about 5 months. Then it came up to my birthday and I wanted a sew in so that transition went out the window for a weave🙈.

In my head I still wanted to go natural so I was relaxing my hair less and less. I was the type of person to relax my hair as soon as I saw regrowth. I didn’t like having to deal with the two textures at all. 👎🏽
So as time went on I still had it in me that I wanted to go back to being natural. I was watching more and more videos on YouTube and reading more blogs on it. I always had in the back of my mind though that if I was to go completely natural I would have to do the big chop. It didn’t seem that scary for me as I have had short hair for many years but never natural short hair. 
My hair when it was relaxed and short a few years ago. 

The week I decided to do my big chop, I was watching so many videos trying to figure out how I will style my hair, what products would make it look good etc. I didn’t just want to cut it and not know what to do. The day finally came when I got my friend to cut off all my relaxed ends. I was already trying to transition for 2 months but I just couldn’t handle the two textures anymore. I had very mixed emotions. I saw all my hair being dropped next to me and it hit me that I can’t take this hair and attached it back to my head lol. 
It looked like this because my hair was starting to become damaged.  It had to be wet before my friend cut it to differentiate between the relaxed and natural texture. My hair was also dyed.

When it was all gone I looked in the mirror and to be honest I wasn’t very excited. In my head I was just like “WHAT DID I DO?” 😒

After the big chop!

Keep an eye out for my next post on the first few days being completely natural and why I nearly cried😢

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Welcome to my blog 💁🏾

Hi beautiful people! 

My name is Chevel and I currently live in London. I just recently went back to being natural after 13 years of having my hair permed! 😱 Boy o boy was this a difficult decision to make.

 Anyone who knows me, they will know how much I enjoy writing. I believe I express myself better through writing. To be honest I personally didn’t want to start a blog because in my mind I was like “there is so many blogs out there doing this, I don’t know much about hair, I just went back to being natural so what on earth am I even going to say, will anyone even read my blog?” and so many more thoughts. I literally had to push past those thought and just go for it! 

A part of the reason I decided to share my journey is, before I decided to go back to my natural hair I read loads of blogs and watched loads of YouTube channels. I was looking for some sort of help with making my decision lol. A lot of what I read and watched encouraged me to make this big step and I just what to share my journey with others. I am sure there are many women out there who have thought about the idea of going back to their natural hair but didn’t have the support or a clue what to do once they went natural (that was me 🙈). I believe the more real life experiences you come across (good and bad)from others, the easier some things become for you and the more help you will get. 

I know what may work for me may not work for you but I am willing to try different things to see what works and what doesn’t. I have already been trying a few things (3 weeks in) and I can already see what is working for my hair and what isn’t. 

I would love to share my journey not only to length but also healthier hair. I can’t wait to experience new styles and become more creative with my hair! 

Watch out for the next blog talking about my big chop!!!😱