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Why doesn’t my natural hair look like hers?😫

If you ever find yourself having this thought, the plain truth is your hair will never look like hers because you are not her. If you are thinking about going natural and you have this kind of mentality, its best not to because you may be disappointed.
I think there is a big thing on wanting your natural hair to look like so and so’s. The dream of having those cute curls, that big curly fro and being able to slick down your edges and it actually staying down lol. I am actually sitting here typing and laughing because I have been very guilty of this and I have come across others who have thought the same.

Instagram is full of natural hair ladies and they all have different texture hair. One thing that I have noticed though is that many pictures (not all) with ladies with the nice slick curly hair gets more attention. That’s just the honest truth. I find myself liking those pictures more often too. I believe it’s because of what we have grown to believe is beautiful. I am coming to realise that every hair is beautiful in its own way but a big problem I have seen with natural hair ladies sometimes is that they do not know how to take care of it. I think it’s all about learning from others and finding out what works for you.

There is a whole thing on what type of natural hair you have, 4c, 4b, 3c, 3b etc. I actually haven’t looked into this much because I don’t really put myself in that hair category. For me it doesn’t make a difference. I am just learning about my hair and what it likes and what it doesn’t. I have already found out that coconut oil doesn’t take well to my hair so I am continuing to try new products to see what works and what doesn’t.

We all have different hair and that is something we all need to have in mind especially if you are thinking about going natural. You can’t decide to go natural and expect your hair to look a certain way, it don’t work like that. I didn’t know how my hair was going to look when I decided to do the big chop and I was scared it wouldn’t look the way I may have imagined but I had to learn my hair won’t look like the pictures I may like on Instagram, but that’s ok, I can still work with my texture. As I said finding the right products is a must because this is helping me.

The moment we start to compare our hair etc is when we start to have those little complexes and may even start to look at ourselves as not beautiful. What you think about yourself shouldn’t come from the opinion of others or comparing how you look to someone else. I said it before and I will say it again ‘beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.’

Let’s stop comparing our hair to this person and that person and start to embrace what we have. I love how unique our natural hair can be. Your texture is just as beautiful as the other persons and don’t let no one tell you otherwise!

These are  a few pictures of my hair. To be honest I am very shocked that my hair looks like this! I didn’t expect it to look the way it does. Please bare in mind it looks like this because I do use products. Without my ecostyler gel it’s doesn’t look like this but it doesn’t mean I love my hair any less😊
Don’t forget to follow my Instagram page to follow the journey with pictures of how I do my hair and products I tend to normally use. @_chevz_natural_hair_journey_

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My natural hair is ugly😕

‘My natural hair is ugly’. This was what I thought before I decided to cut my hair and I am sure other people may be struggling with this thought too. It may be hard to admit but it’s true for many people.Ugly – ‘unpleasant or repulsive, especially in appearance.’

This is the thought I had concerning my hair before I even cut it. Not the best choice of word, right? How could I think what I was born with was unpleasant and repulsive? When I was thinking my natural hair was ugly I didn’t think of it being repulsive and unpleasant but in reality that’s what it was because that’s what the word ugly means.

 

In today’s society women do everything to look beautiful. One of those things in the black community is relaxing our hair. I must say this again, I am not against relaxers at all; I was using it for 13 years and didn’t see a problem lol. I am against some thoughts that come with relaxing your hair, one of them being ‘it’s more beautiful.’ The world teaches people what is beautiful and what is not. If we don’t have a mind of our own then we will fall into that trap and begin to do things to fit in. I believe this is where relaxing black hair came into action. Reading upon how relaxers started, I found that it was because straight hair was accepted in society more back then and was seen acceptable and more ‘beautiful.’

 

We have to remember, what one person may see as beautiful another person may not, and you know what…THAT’S OK! We cannot please everyone in this world and if we try we will live a very very very unhappy life. No one wants to be unhappy.

 

I struggled with the ‘what would people think syndrome’, yes I said syndrome lol. It’s a big thing in today’s world. That thought made me hesitate in regards to cutting my hair and going back to its natural state, along with thinking it was ugly. The thought crossed my mind of what guy would want me with my hair natural. I had to quickly snap out of it. Whoever is out there for me can’t be so shallow to not want me with my natural hair, if that’s the thought; he’s not for me then lol. The reality these days is that we are made to think straight hair, weave etc is more appealing and that’s what guys are looking for. It’s a very stupid thought, I know, but I believe many struggle with thoughts like this. We have to remember not to do anything for others because the outcome may be disappointment, take those decisions because you want to.

 

I think it takes effort and learning in order to become really comfortable and happy with what we have and who we are. Focusing on what society shows as beautiful will never help us to get to that place, most of it is all fake. I started learning more and more how to do my hair, learning from others (not wanting to look like them) and I surely began to embrace and love my natural hair and you know what? IT’S BEAUTIFUL!

 

Ugly? I think not 😂💁🏾 

Have you ever heard of the quote ‘beauty is in the eyes of the beholder?’ I am sure you have, think about this the next time you don’t appreciate or think you or any part of you is beautiful.

 

 

 

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Hair dye disaster🤦🏽‍♀️

Hi everyone
So, I love love love having my hair brown. It’s like a signature colour for me if you can say that. I was dying my hair brown for many years, I just love it. When I cut my hair I always knew I will make sure I have my hair brown again.

I was trying not to put any chemicals that could harm my hair so I researched and asked around what I could do to dye my hair brown again. I was told henna was a really good natural hair dye. I went on YouTube to check it out. I watched videos of other natural hair ladies dying their hair with henna and I thought ok, ‘am going to give it a try’.

I didn’t know specifically what henna dye to buy so I asked someone in the shop which one was best. I was excited to get my brown hair back. I followed the instructions on the box and went ahead to dye my hair brown. I kept it in for about 2hours as this was what the box said. When I finally washed it out my hair was jet BLACK! Bearing in mind the henna was meant to be a light brown hair dye.😒


I left it at that for a few days. I was very disappointed; I wanted my brown hair back. Being the person I am I wanted to try again lol. I went to the shop again and got a different brand but same light brown colour henna. This time I think I even left the dye in longer than I did previously. I washed out the henna and again my hair looked jet BLACK. In my mind I was like what on earth is this. The box was selling me dreams about making my hair brown.😩

I decided to dye my hair again but with my usual chemical based dye. I bought my normal sun kissed brown colour. I was so excited because finally I was going to have my brown hair, using something I was sure would make my hair the colour I wanted. I did my usual with this dye and when I washed it out, again my hair remained black. The roots however looked a little bit brown. Again I was left disappointed but still determined to have my brown hair.

I went on to do my research as to why my hair won’t turn the brown colour I wanted. I think the henna needed to be removed from my hair before I could see the effects of the chemical dye. I checked if I could dye my hair with a chemical dye after using henna. It wasn’t advised but again I went and bought another sun kissed brown hair dye. This time I left it in for longer than usual but when I washed it out, my roots were very much brown but my ends black.

I decided this must stop, so I have been giving the dye a break. Thankfully it hasn’t damaged my hair. Having dyed my hair 4 times, twice with henna and twice with dark and lovely hair dye, my desired light brown hair is still pending lol. I most defiantly still want my hair all brown but for now, I have to deal with the brown roots and black ends. (The brown is not noticeable only if I make a parting)

Until next time….Dont forget to check out my previous post, have a lovely day! 

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Natural hair and the many products😓

Hi everyone,Hope you are all having a great Wednesday!

I remember the first time I was trying to go natural. I went into the shop to get some products for my hair. Did I even know what I was looking for? NO! lol. I ended up wasting around £20 on 3 items that I eventually gave away after relaxing my hair again.

This time round after doing the big chop, I did more research into what I needed for my hair. I think is very important for anyone deciding to go natural. If you don’t know what you need, you end up wasting money. After doing my research I had an idea of what I needed, this also related to the styles (even though it’s just one I stick with at the moment lol) I would be doing as I have short hair. I didn’t just want products that would style my hair but also ones that would promote growth and health.

Hair shops can be a trap lol. Whenever I go in I always want to buy every product in the shop. The long isles filled with everything you could think of is so tempting.


The first few products I have started off with are coconut oil, olive oil, argon oil (oil treatment), ecostyler gel for my edges and shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie.

I was using the coconut oil for the first few days and noticed that it made my hair feel very course. Although it has a lot of benefits, I didn’t like how it made my hair feel so I have stopped using it and now use it for my skin.

Benefits of coconut oil for hair….

• Promotes growth

• Helps with dandruff

• Fights against hair breakage and split ends

• Softens and adds shine  


As I said, I didn’t like what it was doing to my hair when I was using it so I stopped. That’s not to say that if you decide to use it, it won’t work for you. Different hair types respond to products differently so I believe it’s worth a try.

I love using olive oil in my hair. When my hair was relaxed I used it a lot and it really helped my hair to gain strength and growth. I stopped for a long time though and my hair started to break. I use it now and I really can see the difference. It adds shine and I believe it’s helping to stimulate growth. You wouldn’t see it now as natural hair shrinks a lot but when I stretch my hair I can see growth from a month ago when I cut my hair.

Benefits of olive oil….

• Strengthens and shine

• Help with split ends

• Softens the hair 


I am in love with the Crème of Nature argon oil. Every time I use it, it makes my hair feels super soft! I use this on a daily basis when I am styling my hair. Natural hair can become dry very very easily and I believe this product helps to keep my hair moisture and shiny. I usually use this and a bit of the olive oil.


The shea moisture curl enhancer is one product that I also love. I love products that smell good and I love the smell of this one. I wouldn’t say this product help to really define my curls but when I do use it, my curls come out a bit more. It also makes my hair feel soft which I adore.


I have never been a fan of gel because I’ve seen it break hair a lot. The ecostyler gel however is the bomb! I have been using it for a while now even with relaxed hair and it hasnt affected my hair at all. The only downfall I must say is that it does get flakey after a while but I usually sort that by rubbing a bit of olive oil😀


As I mentioned before, different products work differently for everyone. We don’t all have the same hair type so what works for me may not work for you. I do however, suggest olive and the argon oil as these are natural products and they work great, especially in keeping my hair moisture and shine.


I will still be trying out more products in the very near future, am sure there are more out there that will help with growing and keeping my hair healthy. I hope I don’t become a product junkie😳.I do think it’s very good to try new things to see what works for you and what doesn’t. If you don’t try, you won’t ever know. I will keep you updated on anything else I find that helps my hair.

I would love to hear what products have been working for you guys and maybe I will be able to try them out on my hair.💁🏾

Don’t forget to read my previous post. Like, share and comment! Don’t forget to add my Instagram page @_my_natural_hair_jounrey_.

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How will I do my hair when it’s time to go out? 🤷🏽‍♀️🍛🍹

Hi everyone,It’s me again lol.

I want my blog to be on my real experiences. I don’t want to write about things I don’t really know. When I was researching before I did my big chop I was trying to find things that were relevant to me and questions I had. Reading and watching other people’s experiences really helped. Even though what works for someone else may not work for me, I learned a lot and there’s no harm in trying.

One question mark I had was….. ‘How will I do my hair when it’s time to go out to special occasions?’ Women generally make a big fuss about hair when it’s time to go out, I know I do. Before chopping all my hair off I thought about this. How will I cut all my hair off and then put on a nice outfit to go out? Hair compliments an outfit so how will having a TWA (tweenie weenie afro) compliment my outfits.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am not a weave person. I don’t like to wear weave (although I do occasionally). I am a person who loves to wear my real hair; it makes me feel more confident, I don’t even like wearing fake nails. Having everything natural, for me personally makes me feel way more confident with myself. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wearing weave or fake nails etc, I just prefer not to and with this preference weave was not a choice to cover my hair when it was time to go out.

With that question still in mind, I doubted if I should cut my hair. I wanted to stay in my comfort zone and just do what I was used to. A friend’s birthday dinner was coming up and I was thinking how will I do my hair? There isn’t much you can do with short natural hair (especially as low cut as mine). I didn’t know if it would suit what I would wear. Even going out to other places, I wondered if my hair cut would look good with those outfits.

Since cutting my hair, I’ve been learning what works for me as I mentioned before in a previous post. One style I love to do is a little side parting and defining my curls. I think this hairstyle works for most occasions. It’s not too casual and not very formal either (if I can say that). We all know if you have natural hair, you will have some form of curl pattern. It all varies. My curl pattern is very strange as the back of my hair is way looser than the front and the textures are also different. When I am going out I try to work with defining my curls to make them stand out more as this helps with giving me a different look as opposed to just washing my hair and not doing much to it. I will go into this more in another post.

This is an example of what I wore to my friends dinner. What was I worried about?💃🏾

If you are thinking about going natural and doing the big chop but this is a big question mark, I say no need to worry. Short hair brings out your features even more and there are plenty of outfits that will compliment your TWA. Adding a touch of makeup also enhances your natural beauty and allows everything else to shine through, I saw this helped when I did my hair and put on my outfit, it all came together.


As my hair grows, I can’t wait to try out more hairstyles, but for now its more simple ones.

Thank you for reading. Please don’t forget to like, share and comment. I would love to hear from you guys.

P.S….Self-confidence is the best outfit you can wear, whether you have short natural hair or long straight hair.

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Natural hair and working in the corporate world🤔👩🏽‍💻

Hi everyone,This is something I was a bit hesitant to speak about but I do think a lot people may feel the same way or have felt the same way when thinking about going natural. Going back to natural hair is actually a very big decision and it comes with a lot of doubts, fears, question marks etc and where you work plays a part.

I work in the corporate world and that played a BIG part on my decision. We all know that in the corporate world there is a certain standard so to speak of how you should present yourself. You cannot turn up to work in jeans and trainers; it’s all about suits, jackets, formal dresses etc. Hair can also play a big part in completing the corporate look.

As I mentioned in my previous post, it was so easy for me to pack my hair back in a bun and go about my day. For me this was simple and made me look the part. Going from this to a TWA (teenie weenie afro) was going to be a major difference for me. It was no longer going to be the slick bun but a small curly afro.

I wasn’t sure how colleagues would react and that kind of scared me because they were so used to seeing me with straight hair. In my mind I felt like my hair wouldn’t be suitable for the job that I do. Thinking about it, it sounds so silly now because my hair shouldn’t define how I do my job. I am still the same person that got hired all those months ago; it’s just that my hair is a bit different now.

I am generally a person who likes to look presentable whether I am at work or not. My hair is a big thing for me. I always try to keep it looking good, short or long. It’s not because I cut my hair and its growing out in its natural state that I will not take care of it and leave it anyhow. I must admit it takes extra work and natural hair tends to do its own thing at times (if you know you know lol). You may smooth out your edges and by half way through your day those edges have rebelled back into the curls.

I have read articles and stories on people who were hesitant to go back to their natural hair because of where they work. As I said this was a big question mark for me also but I just went for it. I had to push past that thought and do this for me. We all know relaxers are full of chemicals and can do a lot of damage as time goes on. If you decide that you want to stop all that for your health or whatever reason, where you work shouldn’t have such a big effect. That’s my personal opinion. It had an effect on me due to what people would think and if it was acceptable in the environment I worked in. (I have nothing against relaxers by the way!).

What may look good to you may not look good to others and that also comes down to doing things for you and not so much for people. Styling short natural hair can very frustrating and difficult especially according to the environment you are in on a daily basis. I say this because we tend to do our hair differently when we go out, work, interview etc. It was very difficult in the beginning but I played around with my hair a few days and I have been finding out what works for me and my ‘’work look.’’

This is a very wide topic but I don’t want to go into it too much, I am not an expert. I am simply putting out my personal thoughts and experiences along this journey. What you choose to do with your hair I think should be totally up to you but I know different factors can affect your decisions. My confidence with my natural hair is growing daily. I do get a lot more looks from people though, not sure if it’s good or bad lol but am enjoying the process so it doesn’t bother me.

Sorry for the long post…hope you enjoyed the read, please feel free to leave your comment and share with others…until next time!💁🏾

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Why I nearly cried after the BIG CHOP 😢

Hello beautiful people,Thank you all in advance for taking the time out of your precious day to read my blog. I believe we all have something we can share with others whether big or small. There is something we can all learn from each other. This is a part of the reason I wanted to start a blog.

So….let’s get into why I nearly cried the first few days of me cutting my hair lol. One of the reason was because I literally didn’t know what to do with it. I usually do my hair every morning before I go to work and when I had longer relaxed hair, it was very easy to bush it back in a bun and am out the door. Having short natural hair I couldn’t do that anymore. I woke up early one morning to give myself some extra time to do my hair and that morning I looked in the mirror and was like ‘why did I cut my hair’, tears literally nearly came out of my eyes. I started to regret the decision I made. That day I only left the house because I would have been late to work otherwise, lol. I was satisfied but not completely happy with it.

Everything I was trying just wasn’t settling with me and giving the confidence I usually had in regards to my hair. In all honesty a part of me was afraid of people’s reactions. I didn’t know how people were going to react and what they would think about my new tweenie weenie afro (twa). Those thoughts knocked my confidence for a few days.

So many people were complimenting me, but for me I just wasn’t completely sold on my new haircut. When I really think about it, I was more concerned on what others would say and think rather than how I would look at myself and what I would think. I was frustrating myself because I kind of wanted everyone to accept my hair lol. Silly I know but that’s how we think sometimes as human beings. We all want to be accepted one way or another.

It then hit me… ‘Chev, you didn’t do this for anyone to accept you, you did this because you wanted to, you did this for yourself’. It’s funny how we can do things for everyone to accept us and be happy with us but in reality, that’s just impossible. We can and will never be able to please everyone no matter how hard we try. That’s just not how the world works.

An important lesson I learnt in this is, whatever you do, do for yourself first and never forget that. In return whether people like the decision you made or not, it won’t affect you because you didn’t do it for them in the first place!

P.S I don’t have that problem anymore, I am embracing my natural hair more and more each day and I am loving the experience coming with it.

I would love to hear from you, please leave your comments on what you think or any questions you may have….don’t forget to like, share, and follow for new post…until next time😘💁🏾

 

 

 

 

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My BIG CHOP! 

Hi everyone😊👋🏽
If it’s your first time on my blog, your are very welcome. I hope you enjoy this journey with me. 

I never intended to go back to my natural hair at all. In my mind it just seemed like it was too much work and I wouldn’t have a clue what to do with it. My mind slowly began to change seeing pictures and videos of people on social media. 

My hair before the big chop.

The beginning of 2016 I thought I wanted to transition, which I was doing for about 5 months. Then it came up to my birthday and I wanted a sew in so that transition went out the window for a weave🙈.

In my head I still wanted to go natural so I was relaxing my hair less and less. I was the type of person to relax my hair as soon as I saw regrowth. I didn’t like having to deal with the two textures at all. 👎🏽
So as time went on I still had it in me that I wanted to go back to being natural. I was watching more and more videos on YouTube and reading more blogs on it. I always had in the back of my mind though that if I was to go completely natural I would have to do the big chop. It didn’t seem that scary for me as I have had short hair for many years but never natural short hair. 
My hair when it was relaxed and short a few years ago. 

The week I decided to do my big chop, I was watching so many videos trying to figure out how I will style my hair, what products would make it look good etc. I didn’t just want to cut it and not know what to do. The day finally came when I got my friend to cut off all my relaxed ends. I was already trying to transition for 2 months but I just couldn’t handle the two textures anymore. I had very mixed emotions. I saw all my hair being dropped next to me and it hit me that I can’t take this hair and attached it back to my head lol. 
It looked like this because my hair was starting to become damaged.  It had to be wet before my friend cut it to differentiate between the relaxed and natural texture. My hair was also dyed.

When it was all gone I looked in the mirror and to be honest I wasn’t very excited. In my head I was just like “WHAT DID I DO?” 😒

After the big chop!

Keep an eye out for my next post on the first few days being completely natural and why I nearly cried😢

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Welcome to my blog 💁🏾

Hi beautiful people! 

My name is Chevel and I currently live in London. I just recently went back to being natural after 13 years of having my hair permed! 😱 Boy o boy was this a difficult decision to make.

 Anyone who knows me, they will know how much I enjoy writing. I believe I express myself better through writing. To be honest I personally didn’t want to start a blog because in my mind I was like “there is so many blogs out there doing this, I don’t know much about hair, I just went back to being natural so what on earth am I even going to say, will anyone even read my blog?” and so many more thoughts. I literally had to push past those thought and just go for it! 

A part of the reason I decided to share my journey is, before I decided to go back to my natural hair I read loads of blogs and watched loads of YouTube channels. I was looking for some sort of help with making my decision lol. A lot of what I read and watched encouraged me to make this big step and I just what to share my journey with others. I am sure there are many women out there who have thought about the idea of going back to their natural hair but didn’t have the support or a clue what to do once they went natural (that was me 🙈). I believe the more real life experiences you come across (good and bad)from others, the easier some things become for you and the more help you will get. 

I know what may work for me may not work for you but I am willing to try different things to see what works and what doesn’t. I have already been trying a few things (3 weeks in) and I can already see what is working for my hair and what isn’t. 

I would love to share my journey not only to length but also healthier hair. I can’t wait to experience new styles and become more creative with my hair! 

Watch out for the next blog talking about my big chop!!!😱